Comments on Full Arms, Full Heart: Crossroads

Such a tough choice... I know I am late with comme...

2010-12-20T11:18:43.255-06:00

Such a tough choice... I know I am late with commenting, and you probably already made your decision, so my ramblings here may be a moot point. Yet I will ramble nonetheless. The juggling you are already doing sounds pretty tough--and, to be honest, unsustainable for the long term. And I know that you know this. Adding work more hours to this already tough mix is, well, even tougher. Will you get enough joy and fulfillment out of your job to make it worth it? I don't know. Only you can answer that. I know my answer would be "no"--but my job is so much less impactful than yours, from what I gather.

If you chose to take the job, I know you can--and will--make it work, for your personally and for your family. You will make a difference in so many lives.

If you chose to turn down the job, don't doubt yourself. Your babies are still little, and you are young. The girls will be starting school in just a few short years--and that will give you a chance to focus more on your career. There will be a perfect job--maybe not the one you will absolutely love, but the one that will fulfill you.

Now beware--all of this is coming from a mom who has (and always had) a full-time job and so many regrets about missing out on the time with my boys. When my older one started kindergarten, I was a mess for months because I mourned the end of my opportunity to be home with him. So take what I say with a grain of salt--because you know, the grass is always greener...

I am at a similar crossroads regarding motherhood ...

2010-12-10T21:14:48.572-06:00

I am at a similar crossroads regarding motherhood and working.....not at a job that I truly LOVE, wishing I was home more with my babies so I didn't miss so much and feel SO divided in everything I do (and OH the EXHAUSTION! Oiy.).
Know that you're not alone and I know you'll do what's best for all of you!
(((hugs, Mama)))

This is such a difficult choice and I hope you fin...

2010-12-09T07:10:48.186-06:00

This is such a difficult choice and I hope you find the right compromise soon, if not immediately. But I am also just enjoying reading your blog because of your immense happiness with your family. I know that this isn't the time to be thinking about it for us, but I am endlessly baffled as to when I will feel like our family is complete and be ready to focus on so many other things than IF. And it is so nice to read that you are there now, and content.